Your Arse and the Divine Feminine

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So today I want to talk to you about your arse, okay, or we might also talk about your bottom, or or your reena, or your posterior, that's the old-fashioned word I remember from when I was younger, I think, I’m not sure if you're watching this in America, what else you would call it, but there's probably hundreds of words about our bottoms, and for me when I think about my bottom, my arse, in terms of Tantra there's a very different way of exploring your arse than I would say is typical.

So typically, in gay sex we use our bottoms to get fucked. We use our bottoms to release fecal matter, to have a poo, to have a shape, and I think in my experience, when I've had sex with different men, I'd have done that, would you believe it, sometimes the arse can get very very complicated, and there's kind of lots of fears so people will say that they can't take a big cock, they're not comfortable being bottoms.  

Then there's also the stuff around being a power bottom, and I'm going to talk a little bit about that in a moment, but just basically whenever you bring the ass into gay sex it can all get a little bit complicated and and there's so much going on, and one of the reasons might be around what that's about, why is that now for me in Tantra, we work with the masculine and we work with the feminine, there isn't man and woman, that's just a masculine energy and a feminine energy, and for me my belief in Tantra’s that everybody has both of those energies going on in themselves.

And for those of you that know about your chakras, there's some chakras that are very aligned to the masculine energy pearl, excuse me, and there's also other chakras that are aligned to the feminine energy ,and basically they kind of weave through the body, okay, and then they meet at the top, at the, at the crown or above the crown chakra to create what we call this state of bliss. So your arse is actually, in Tantra, the start of your feminine energy, it's the place where, the, your feminine energy starts.

Now what is feminine energy? Well, for me, if you imagine that all of your life's experiences, all of the things that have happened to you in your life, good, bad, traumatic, abusive, beautiful, loving, everything, basically they're all experienced by all of the chakras and it's a bit like a sound storm, and that it kind of all slowly comes down your body and it kind of settles in the pelvic area, it's kind of held all within the arse, all within that, that pelvic area. So for me one of the feminine qualities is about the holder of emotions, and it's the holder of emotions from all of your life's experiences. Now, I don't if you've ever had your arse fingered or your arse played with, and slowly your arse opens, okay, and for me there's a vulnerability in that, the feminine energy is about vulnerability, it's about emotion.

But don't be, don't be forward by thinking it's all, like weaken, that it's actually the container, the feminine energy is the container for the masculine energy, for your cock energy to sit inside, that the feminine energy is receptive, it's holding, it's loving, it's like, that the heart is the center of the feminine energy, and it's the holder of receptivity, so being able to receive and being able to experience, there's lots of other qualities, but those are the ones that come to my mind first.

So it's like, if you imagined that your masculine energy was always pushing and, and trying to achieve, and being very goal orientated, and being all about power, and being all about raw sex, that's a really lovely thing; but if that was all of who you are, then that would kind of get a bit boring; after all, it'd be like I talk about I'm eating cream cakes, okay the first cream cake, imagine a tray of gorgeous chocolate eclair cakes, the first one you eat is lovely, and it kind of, all these beautiful sensations through your body, the second one is maybe not as good as the first one, but it was still good, by the third one, whoo-hoo, you're starting to get what, beat me, it would be the fourth one, it's starting to get a little bit filled up, and by about the seventh one you're like okay no more no more, don't give me any more; and for me the same thing is about masculine energy and feminine energy.

And if you're always in the masculine energy, after a while that can get a bit boring. And so the way that I know that is I sometimes get emails that talk about being bored, and sex doing the same role playing, the same thing, doing the same thing, and, and for me, one reason could be is that you're very much in your masculine energy, but actually never really explored the feminine energy, explored your arse, because who would want to make themselves vulnerable, right.

Why, why would you want to do that? Let me tell you, I'm going to give you the perfect answer about why you would want to make yourself vulnerable. When you're vulnerable, you're receiving, you're receptive, and there's experiences and sensations when you're in control with the masculine, the masculine energy pushes outwards whereas the feminine energy receives inwards. And so for me there's something about power and having over and starting to develop a relationship with your arse, developing a relationship with your feminine energy, and developing a relationship inside yourself about how these can kind of both sit together.

So, in tantric terms, the feminine energy is as equally important as the masculine energy, but there's kind of often a catharsis process that needs to be gone through to allow yourself to trust and be vulnerable, to really go into being receptive, to being in your feminine energy, so sometimes when we start to do anal massage within Tantra actually the first few times it can feel uncomfortable, it can feel intense, it can feel, yeah, really really powerful, and for me there's something about learning to let go. You see, in life were often told that to get something more, right, you have to try harder, you have to push harder, you have to be more masculine, and actually I don't believe that's the whole story.

I think that's half right, but the other half, the feminine, is about allowing, it's about receiving, it's about expanding, it's about letting go, and so sometimes the best experiences that you can have, and not about by trying harder, but are more about letting go, so in Tantra your arse is holding every single life experience that you've had, and so as you go through the process of a norm Asajj, as you go through the process of breathing up, the emotions that are therein and expressing them, there's kind of a release.

If you struggle with control or you struggle to let go in life, anal massage is absolutely the way to go and you know I facilitate that in my trainings because I feel that this, something about a care, and there's something about safety, and there's something about the person doing it being trained to know what they're doing, because it's the most vulnerable part of you. So I wanted to talk to you today a little bit about the arse, a little bit about its relationship to feminine energy and basically the relationship of Tantra with that and how anal massage is a healing and cathartic process to allow you to be more, let go, to allow you to be more receptive, to enable you to to be able to receive.

Now I think that when I look at gay sex, anal massage can sometimes be confused with anal pleasure, and I think there's two things that the arse is good for, there is the COS catharsis process that I'm talking about, and that's one thing; but there's also the other thing around the arse being the source of pleasure, and actually, typically in gay sex, so we're kind of fucking there's fee, there's fast, and there's kind of going going at it, but actually there's actually an, another layer of magic underneath that in that when you're fucking somebody, if you're receiving it there's places where it touches, where you feel such a resonance, it's gonna sound a bit, hookah kook, you know, it can feel that the whole universe is fucking you, it can feel like there's a magic, that's there, that kind of opens and expands you and grows you.

So next time you're getting fucked, okay if you're lucky next time you're getting fucked, kind of start as a meditation looking for the place where there's magic because I think the arse gets a bad rap and it can be complicated and it is stuff to unravel, but there's also a much deeper sense of, prefer of, magic of beauty, this, there's really a lot there to to explore.

No one's gonna talk about earlier, about power bottoms, and that's kind of been a new term in the last five to ten years about your own power bottom and that's a beautiful thing, but my question to power bottoms is about, are they actually trying to use the masculine energy in a feminine context, is it all about pushing, fighting, and going at it, is it all about that, or is there something about when you're being fucked to allowing yourself to be vulnerable and receptive like I was talking about earlier.

So I think, you know, for me power bottoms, if they're wanting to be fucked from the masculine power bottoms, are gray, but I think there's something about not getting confused with the other opportunities that are there, the catharsis and finding the magic and being fucked. So I think that's kind of three things, as I'm talking to you, that are available there. So some ideas have a listen to have a play and next time you're in a noir play maybe have a think about some of the things that I've mentioned today.

I hope this serves you. I hope you've enjoyed it, and there's more from you soon. Take care. Blessings. Bye-bye.