Working as a Tantric Practitioner

Video Transcript:

Hello, I’m Jason Tantra and welcome to my video this time. What I’m going to talk to you about this time is about what it is to work as a Tantric practitioner. For me, what I mean by a Tantric practitioner is somebody that works with ‘clients’ where ‘clients’ are paying ‘money’ for a session or an appointment where you are offering them ‘Tantra’. For me, I would say 90% of my clients that I receive on a 1 to 1 basis are coming to experience Tantric massage, and 5% are coming to explore my Tantric BDSM fusion sessions and also people are coming to see me for Tantric rituals. I get quite a lot of requests from you about what it is to be a Tantric practitioner and in this video I just wanted to talk a little bit more in depth about what it entails, things to consider, how you get setup and kind of all those different things.
I’ve been working as a Tantric practitioner for 10 years, would you believe I’ve taught over 10,000 men in my workshops and my 1 to 1s. For me one of the really simple things that I advocate is, if you look at my Tantra4GayMen website you’ll see that I have a code of ethics and if you come to see me as a workshop or my festival or my diploma event, one of my ethics is about ‘do no harm to people’. What that means is that if I’m teaching a workshop or an event or a festival, I’m in the role of facilitator, I’m in the role of teacher so I’m not getting involved. The difference for me in my role as a practitioner is that I am involved, I’m bringing myself personally to this experience with another person and for me that’s the difference between the two. In my role as a Tantric practitioner, I’m bringing my human self, I’m bringing the part of me that’s present on a day to day, I’m bringing the human part of myself. When I’m in a teaching role it’s like I’m in service to the group, I’m holding that as a teacher and a facilitator and that’s what I should do. But as a practitioner I’m actually involved in the process, I’m actually in there with my clients and I’m sharing the experience with them. For me the reason why I work as a Tantric practitioner, particularly in my massage work is because I want to offer my clients my intention, the reason why I’m doing it is the offer them a felt experience of bliss and a felt experience of ecstasy - my intention is that they would have an experience greater than who they were when they came into the room - that they would have an experience that was more profound, more ecstatic, more blissful than maybe they’ve ever experienced in their life. One of the things I hear quite often from my clients in my 1 to 1 sessions is ‘oh my god Jason I didn’t realise my body could do that, I’ve never had that, what on earth was that?’. For me what I’m doing is the intention is that they have an experience of bliss or ecstasy and I’m using Tantric techniques and practices that I’ve learned over 2.5 decades and bringing those all to this session to meet that intention. Whenever I’m working as a Tantric practitioner, it’s always about being clear what it is you’re offering your clients - that would be the first thing I’d say.
Now I just happen to use sexual energy as the place to get to that blissful and ecstatic place. Other spiritual practices use other methods but what I really love about Tantra is that it uses the body to have these profound experiences of bliss and ecstasy and remember I was saying I want them to have a felt experience, I want them to really feel it in the body and for them to have that experience in the body so that it’s not just a mental concept but something that they’ve really deeply and truly felt. Now in my 10,000 clients over the last decade, it would be fair to say that I’ve had every type of man walk into my room - every shape, every size, every colour, every permutation, every variety and I just don’t know who’s walking through my door from one client to the next, I get the email and I arrange the session and I don’t know who it is that’s arriving. One of the things I find quite funny is what I call my gaydar voice, when you meet someone for the first time you already have a yes/no fantasy about whether you might fancy that person or not and if you do fancy that person you kind of have this ’this is gonna be a good session’…and I have to tell you with my experience, you just have to put that with all its love and intention into the dustbin because I think some of the mistakes that practitioners and massage therapists can make, especially when working with sexual energy is that they’re using it as a mechanism to fulfil their own needs and for me my clients are paying money and they are coming to see me and actually they are asking for a set amount of time for me to be available to them for their needs and their intention. For me, the minute I bring in my own needs or my own wants, i’ve lost sight of my client and I’ve lost sight of being in service to them so the session can become about my needs and not about my client’s needs. I’ve been on the receiving end of this - one of the things I advocate as a practitioner is go and see other practitioners, go and see other masseurs and go and see what feels right and what doesn’t feel right because then you’ll learn about your own practice and you’ll be able to add much more into your repertoire of what you’re doing. When I’ve been in those sessions where the masseur has made the session about their needs, actually I don’t feel good as a client. I don’t feel met, I don’t feel seen, I feel like I’m following their agenda and not mine and it doesn’t feel great, it feels really yucky and horrible. So for me when you’re working as a Tantric practitioner, you are in service to that person that is coming to see you, your only reason for being there is in service for that person. One of my other top tips working as a practitioner is to make sure that you get your own sexual needs and your own other needs for love and intimacy, that you’re getting those met elsewhere. Because again what you can happen is if they’re not being met elsewhere, you could fall into the trap of making the session  about your needs and then you lose your client because you’re not with them and not being present. So whatever fantasy you have about them as they come in the door, dump that in the bin. What happens as I start connecting with that person, it’s like something else takes over - the spiritual part of me steps in, my heart opens and I’m making myself available to take them on this journey to bliss and to ecstasy.
The other thing that I sometimes get is ‘how do you work with clients that you don’t find attractive and you’re working intimately with their sexual energy?’. One of the things that I’ve learned over the years and it’s kind of a contradiction to what we have in mainstream culture, is it’s not actually the physical attributes of somebody that makes them sexy, it’s their ability to be open, to be in the session that I’m offering them - that’s what can make it a really good session and that’s what can make them sexy. That for me has been a headfuck, it’s been confusing because sometimes i’ve had this gorgeous person in the room and I can’t wait to do the session, and yet they’ve been so repressed in their energy and experience that they haven’t been able to experience any of it and it has been really hard work…