Bringing Bliss to Life
Hello there. I'm Jason tantra, and today I want to talk to you a little bit about bringing that to this, and what do I mean about bringing that to this?. Well, there's several things that come up for me when I ponder that possibility.
When I think about that, the first thing is, for me, the experience of bliss is what I mean by bringing that to this.
If you think about you in your everyday life, most people would say that they don't live in a state of bliss, and for me, bliss is on that spiritual journey on that spiritual pathway to this thing called enlightenment this, you know, Nirvana that we're all heading towards.
But specifically today, I want to talk about this idea of bliss, and for me, there are two different ways of getting into bliss.
The first thing is through silence, so that meditation, training your mind to kind of take a back seat and being with what comes up once the mind has taken that step, that sidestep there's a quality, there's an energy, there's a sensation in the body that you feel that is very, very subtle.
And for me, it absolutely feels like the divine feminine because my masculine can't control it, I can't grab it, I can't make it happen, I can't gravitate to it, and what I know is that the more that I surrender, the more that I let go, then it creates the possibility for that to happen.
But I know that my ego, my mind, my wanting is absolutely not in control of it. So there's kind of like a relationship of surrender around that, and then the other thing, the other way into that state of bliss is then very much through sexual energy peak orgasmic experiences, and if you do like the clench and a whole ward after building up that orgasmic energy, that is also another rocket of bliss to take you again, somewhere out of the mind, somewhere out of really the part of you that wants to control and drive, drive their show.
If you think about you on a day-to-day basis, probably like me, your mind is in control of your waking time.
Other than my meditation practice, I would say my mind is running the show. I'm kind of most of the time, although because of my meditation practice, my tantra practice, having worked on myself for decades, okay.
There is another quality inside me that I would say has a level of awareness and awareness where my mind is running now that is in constant, but I would say frequently through my day, I have this state of awareness, and what that enables me to do is to take a step back and observe my mind and observe my feelings and observe the sensations going on in my body.
So for me, all spiritual practices are going to help you develop this state of awareness, and when I come back into a state of awareness, there's then also another quality of presence being present presence, the way I feel it in my body is that it has an energy. It has a quality about it as a state of presence.
That for me, is the portal to accessing this thing called bliss. Ingo and I teach diploma retreats. We do week long diploma weeks, and I would say everybody, most people leave that week, feeling deeply moved. Now, why are they deeply moved? Well, there's several things, several combinations that are going on in parallel that are enabling people to evolve. We use that word for the moment.
Firstly, there is very intense meditation practices, catharsis release, letting go. If you've listened to any of my previous videos, you'll know that I talk about tantra being this mix of love and truth, and another way that I describe the tantra pathway is, all about bliss and dealing with the crap that gets in the way.
In your diploma week, you're dealing with a lot of stuff that has often been suppressed, often, not aware that that's going on. You see, often people in our diploma weeks will be reminded or stuff will come up that they're able to link back to previous things going on in their life.
So that's one thing that happens in this diploma week. The other thing that happens is that people often have profound experiences of bliss, of ecstasy, of orgasm, any of those descriptive words that are experiences beyond the mind and experiences that are beyond that take people into, as I say, these states of bliss.
Now, I don't feel for a moment that living in a state of happy bliss is the answer to everything. But I think definitely a starting point in a spiritual journey, looking to see how you can sit more in presence, more in bliss and more in awareness of what's going on. When those things happen, life is more joyful, and you have more choices. I talk about tantra being a pathway to freedom, and what I mean by freedom, it's not suddenly being let out of your prison cell of your house, but actually being let out of the prison cell of yourself, your patterns of behaviour, your routines, your mental way of behaving, because you've always behaved that way.
Are the ingredients for staying stuck or for standing still, those are the things, and then also what gets in the way of knowing that or having an awareness that actually something isn't right, and then feeling scared to change it.
Often that goes on for a lot of us and also not having the courage or resources around you, all people around you to help and support you to make changes.
So we get these things that get in the way, those are all related to ego, they're all related to mind, and the reason being, is because your mind, your ego and mine is always running on historic events. Everything that your ego perceives the world, is based upon what has gone before, and it's either frightened of the future or remembering the past, and never really sat in the now and the opportunity for the presence of now the opportunity for now.
What do I mean by that moment of now? Well, that moment of now, just as I'm with you, and I feel that in my body, I kind of giggle because I can just tune in to that. Not needing to know, not needing to have an opinion, not needing to be anything and not needing to be fears of the future or projections or remembering of the past, but actually being at this moment of now, that hasn't yet fully defined itself, that doesn't fully know yet.
That moment, isn't utter opportunity that we have opportunity after opportunity, moment to moment of our lives, to be able to experience as new. That isn't based on our conditioning on what's happened to us before and what we're frightened might happen to us in the past, and 99% of people will never understand or even have an awareness that is a possibility, let's See.
Now I want to go back to this idea then of bliss and how you bring this to that or that, to that, to this. So it's very good to have experiences that take you beyond whom you think you are, and often those might feel a bit scary or a bit, you need to take a deep gulp, you need to take a run and a jump.
I would absolutely say that the tantric path is absolutely about that. It's absolutely about taking a run on a jump it's about starting to lose and let go of the need to know what's going to happen next and being able to step or stand in that new possibility of now, moment to moment, without any preconceived idea of what that can be.
When you're in that state of presence, the way the world looks is holy and hugely different, there is a bliss about it. Now, do you keep that a move through your day? When if you master it, let me know, do some workshops and show us how to do it.
The practice here is about how to keep that state of presence, how to keep that state of awareness with you constantly and observing yourself, doing your life, and then watching yourself, doing your life and looking and seeing how you are now, this isn't a mind activity.
It might sound like a mind activity, but it isn't, it's a state of presence, and there's always this process of self-inquiry around, inquiring, why you're behaving in that way.
Why are you reacting that way? What's going on? And for me, when I go back into that, I'm able to release things. I'm able to understand why I'm behaving certain ways. I have more awareness. And then when I have more awareness, I have more choice, and if I'm being aware of the things that trigger me, that upset me, that go on in my life, and I have an awareness about that,
then that creates the fertile soil to be able to then be open to the moment of now and be able to experience now without any history attached to it or without any fears about what the future might hold.
I talk about this thing about love and truth. So as I'm with you, this awareness that I'm talking about, this self-inquiry is about the truth part. But one of the things I was talking about recently was that truth without love is incredibly harsh, and another trap here might be that you trap yourself into always being an awareness.
The ego is completely caught up in that, making that awareness and then lose it, then loses the point because it needs an equal amount of love to hold that truth. The love needs to hold the truth, and the truth keeps the love on its toes so that it doesn't fall asleep. These two parallels and in all my experience of spirituality, this is where I'm at the moment that these two qualities, these two things are what we're aiming for, truth in awareness and an utter truth, but with love and love for me is about bringing compassion to yourself, compassion to others.
Like I was just sat there. Pondering about some behaviours of my mother. Okay, here we talk about my mother for a second. My mother, Greek mother, I love her dearly. She's done a huge amount for me, and she has this behaviour where she criticizes everybody, and actually at the moment, my poor sister is in the high jump and being criticized and demeaned by my mother.
There's a lot to talk about in that pattern of behaviour, but the reason I'm wanting to bring that to you is around looking at how compassion sits in that. I felt angry at my mother, how dare she talk about my sister like that? My sister's doing her best. She's not out to piss anybody off or offend anybody, and as I was sitting in awareness, as I was sitting with this situation, it then progressed to, oh my God, my mother must be talking from some wound, her reason for constantly criticizing, judging, and assessing everybody and everything.
When I felt that in my body, it wasn't doing it with my mind and I wasn't doing it in a psychotherapeutic way. I was doing it in a way where I was taking it through my body and just setting meditating on the quality of that criticism and what then came up into my mind, came into my windows, oh my God, my mother must be talking from a core wound that she has, It could be a wound about wanting to be perfect.
I know mother utterly cannot cope with any criticism at all, and I know that she's been paranoid that us as children might criticize anything she did as an adult, and then I think she carries some guilt about some of the choices that she made, and I think she still, maybe, goes round a loop of still persecuting herself.
Remember, as I said earlier in this talk, that actually we keep ourselves prisoner. We keep ourselves prisoner to thought patterns that we have about certain situations that keep us, that hold us hostage.
I often come across people in my day-to-day life, in my tantra teaching life, where people are holding on, and I think even I may do this, I'm questioning that at the moment where I hold on to patterns of mental thinking, mental views, mental judgments, mental assessments that actually keep me prisoner and keep other people prisoner.
Just going back to my mother part as I'm, then sat with this awareness of this wound and this, this reasoning around actually, if you throw the first stone, maybe people won't throw them back.
I could that my heart then opened, and I could then just sit with that wound. I could sit with that pain and bring awareness and bring love to that.
I’m not saying I've got it right, these are just my ideas, but that for me is one example of how to bring that, how to bring the love and the truth together to unpick and undo the situations and scenarios that you have in your life, and once you unpack those wants there space between your thoughts and your awareness, that gap is where bliss then starts to unfold.
It's then for me, not just about being in awareness and understanding everything and bringing up, that's kind of half the game, but the other half of the game is how you physically manifest that bliss in your day-to-day life.
You know, people talk a lot about self-care. People talk a lot about partners' families, and my question is how do you manifest that bliss in your life alongside with the awareness and the truth.
And that for me is the spiritual challenge that's in front of us because when we bring more love to ourselves, we then can only do things that are fulfilling and helping us, and we get caught up in so many ideas of what we think is important. What we think is true, what we think is important and actually in truth, much of that is just not important.
The radical thought I sometimes have is, well, what's left when I die, what's going to still be important when I die, you know, in my family and friends of the family, there's been quite a few deaths recently, and it makes me bring to a perspective of stuff. That's not really that important or stuff. That's not really that it's not going to exist after I've died, so it's then kind of coming back into that state of presence into that state of awareness and navigating your life from that place, not from an imprisoned life now, how do you actually do that?. Because that's actually a little more complicated than it sounds, it's being infields of consciousness. It's about listening to this, letting this provoke, some thoughts for you. It's about going to different things where there's this level of consciousness that's talking to you to help you on that journey around staying in your seat of presence, building awareness about stuff, about you, patterns of you, people or any do.
The other part is then how to manifest that bliss in your day-to-day life. So I just wanted to give you some thoughts, some ideas around this topic, this talk about how to bring that to this.
I hope that's helpful for you. I hope that's given you some ideas and, look forward to seeing you, take care, bye bye.